Taking The First Step: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Starting Over
Originally Published: January 28, 2022 Last Updated: February 2024 The morning sun streams through your window, bringing with it a chance for change. Every new day offers an opportunity to transform your life, to choose a different path. I know this firsthand because I have stood exactly where you might be standing now – at the crossroads of […]
Preparing for Divorce: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to rotecting Your Future (2025 Refresh)
*Originally Published: January 2023**Last Updated: February 2025* Just like a house fire, divorce can feel overwhelming and chaotic when it first begins. As both a property manager who has handled multiple fire emergencies and a professional divorce coach, I’ve learned that preparation and knowledge are your greatest allies in any crisis. When Your Marriage Feels […]
When Divorce Is Actually Better for the Kids: Breaking the Myth
Originally Published August, 2021. Updated March 2025. Quick Answer: Is Divorce Better for the Kids? While divorce is a challenging transition, research and coaching experience confirm that children thrive in peaceful environments, regardless of family structure. Staying in a high-conflict, tense, or emotionally cold marriage often causes more long-term damage—such as anxiety and poor relationship […]
Why Won’t My Abusive Spouse File for Divorce? Understanding the Control Behind the Resistance
Originally Published January 2024, Updated April 2025All names are changed to protect client privacy Quick Answer: Why Won’t My Abusive Spouse File for Divorce? An abusive spouse often refuses to file for divorce to maintain control, protect their public image (playing the “victim”), and avoid the ego injury of rejection. By refusing to act, they […]
The Sunk Cost Fallacy in Divorce: Why “Years Invested” Shouldn’t Keep You in an Unhappy Marriage
Quick Answer: What is the Sunk Cost Fallacy in Divorce? The “Sunk Cost Fallacy” is the psychological trap of staying in an unhappy marriage solely because of the time, money, or emotion you have already “invested.” In reality, these are sunk costs—they are gone and cannot be recovered. Staying longer does not “save” the past […]
Why I Became a Certified Divorce Coach
When people ask me why I chose to become a Certified Divorce Coach in Peoria, Illinois, I often share a story that changed my perspective on how we support people through one of life’s most challenging transitions. The Moment That Changed Everything I had noticed my friend wasn’t herself. For weeks, she seemed distracted, emotionally […]
The Sunk Cost Fallacy in Divorce Part 2: When to Cut Your Losses with Your Attorney
Why “I’ve Already Paid Them So Much” Isn’t a Good Reason to Stay with a Bad Divorce Lawyer In Part 1 of this series, we explored how the sunk cost fallacy can keep you trapped in an unhappy marriage longer than necessary. Today, we’re tackling another crucial area where this psychological trap wreaks havoc: your […]
“I Don’t Know What I Don’t Know About Divorce” – And Why That’s Actually Your Smartest Starting Point
The most dangerous phrase in any major life transition? “How hard can it be?” I hear it at least three times a week on consultation calls: “Katie, I don’t know what I don’t know about divorce.” Usually followed by a nervous laugh and an admission that they’ve been Googling “divorce process” at 2 AM for weeks, only […]
When Should I Divorce? Divorce Coach Answers Your Timing Questions and Explains Why You Should Start Now
Key Takeaways: “The person who is willing to start has a standing invitation to a better future.” I found myself writing these words recently, and they’ve been echoing in my mind ever since. As a divorce coach who has walked this path myself and guided hundreds of others through their own journeys, I’ve come to realize that […]
Are You in a Relationship with a High-Conflict Person? The Patterns That Finally Made It Clear
If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering if what you’re experiencing is “normal” relationship conflict or something more serious. Here’s what I want you to know: if you’re constantly walking on eggshells, questioning your own reality, or feeling like nothing you do is ever good enough, those are significant red flags. You’re not imagining it, and […]