The 5 Key Professionals in the Divorce Process (And Why You Need More Than Just a Lawyer)
How to Build a Strategic Divorce Team That Saves You Money and Stress Quick Answer: While a lawyer handles the law, a complete divorce strategy requires a team. The 5 Key professionals in the Divorce Process are the Family Law Attorney, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®), Divorce Coach, Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert (CDRE™), and […]
Top Three ways and affair will affect your Divorce
I’ve been working as a Certified Divorce Coach for over four years and helping friends with their divorces casually for years before that. One of the top questions I get is, “I’ve been seeing someone, how will that be viewed by the judge?” Some people are more bold and open about their affairs, others are much more […]
Three reasons to work with a divorce coach
When you’re thinking about separation or divorce, it is VERY overwhelming! There are the roller coaster of emotions that can range from excitement about the future to overwhelming grief and sadness for what is being lost to intense anger for the abuse and hurt. There is also the logistics of divorce. Who will take the kids […]
Is there always a villain in divorce?
Hello again! I am in peaceful Northern California for a few days with my friend Rei Hotoda. She is the Conductor for the Fresno Philharmonic. She had a break between shows and invited me to join her in Northern Napa for a quick but much needed getaway. We’ve hiked, ate LOTS of bread and cheese and […]
Need a Quick Divorce? The Secret Isn’t the Paperwork, It’s the Agreement
Quick Answer: The secret to a quick divorce isn’t filing the paperwork faster; it is reaching an agreement sooner. In Illinois, the fastest legal route is an Uncontested Divorce, which can be finalized in as little as 60 to 90 days. However, this is only possible if you and your spouse sign a full Marital […]
Ego is the (marriage) enemy
We love Ryan Holiday and his book “Ego is the Enemy” “I guess I’m going to have to file, because she never will even though she threatens all the time” another client sighed to me the other day. “Our life is miserable. We only talk to figure out who’s picking the kids up from baseball […]
You Don’t Need Me to Save You: Why Strategy Beats “Rescue” in Divorce
By Katie VandenBerg, CDC Certified Divorce Coach® | Focused Forward Divorce coaching is not about “saving” broken people; You Don’t Need Me to Save You is about restoring clarity after prolonged emotional distortion. Unlike generic life coaching that tells victims to “get out of their own way” (which often mimics abuser logic), professional divorce coaching […]
What To do before you file for divorce
Well, Hello again! It’s been a couple months since I’ve written in this space. The end of summer was busy but sweet for our family. Our son went to a three week long summer camp and upon returning it was a dash to get ready for school to start. Our daughter enjoyed every last drop […]
Divorce Coaching: How I Can Help You Navigate Life’s Toughest Transitions
Divorce is one of the most emotionally draining and complex transitions a person can face. The process often leaves individuals feeling overwhelmed, confused, and lost about what steps to take next. That’s where a divorce coach can make all the difference. What Does a Divorce Coach Do? As a Certified Divorce Coach, I specialize in offering divorce coaching […]
Throwing in the towel
“Throwing in the Towel”“Giving Up on a Good Thing”“Walking Away from Marriage”“Marriage is Hard Work… You Just Need to Try Harder!” All of these phrases get used by people who don’t understand why a couple decides to divorce. As a divorce coach, I often hear these comments from clients whose friends and family are completely blindsided by […]