Valentine’s Day 2024
Valentine’s Day 2024 A lot of us have a Love-Hate Relationship with Valentine’s Day. While I’m happy to, heck I even ENJOY, showing my love to my kids and husband on Valentine’s Day, I don’t love the marketing behind it. I don’t love that the showing of love is EXPECTED and is marketed to be […]
Got divorced in a small town
Going through a divorce in a Small Town is like…. Amiright? Been There, Done That. One question I get when I first talk with a potential client that still surprises me is “Do you keep our conversations confidential? Is Divorce Coaching confidential?” YES. 10000% YES. I get it. I make my life in Small Town, […]
The Art of Amicable Divorce: Navigating the End of a Marriage with Grace
I’ve been a Certified Divorce Coach for over four years now and I STILL cringe when someone says they “want to hire a bulldog attorney” or “I need an attorney that is a SHARK!” No. You don’t. I love talking my clients off this ledge and helping them see that in the end, they are glad they […]
How to help a friend through a divorce
Well, Hello again! I think our family is FINALLY done passing sickness around. Have you had to deal with that too? I feel like someone has been sick since the New Year and I’m glad we’re on the other side of it (hopefully!) We have some exciting things planned for the next couple of weeks […]
This is not tv divorce
Happy St Patrick’s Day! I always love this simple holiday. It feels like the very beginning of Spring with Easter just around the corner. I don’t have to buy gifts or plan surprises. We just get to wear green and eat corned beef. In our case, I didn’t even have to make it this year! […]
If I can’t have this marriage, I don’t want to be married
“I notice we are envious of people who are already doing what we are made to do. If we use our envy as a sort of arrow pointing us toward our destiny, that is a beautiful thing” ~Glennon Doyle I remember the profound envy I felt during my first marriage. We were the first of […]
Five Bits and pieces from March
Happy (almost) Easter! What a month I had! Here’s a recap of my month. I did this in January and think it’s fun. Let me know if you like it and I’ll try to keep it up! One Win: This was an emotional, big change! Some of you may know that I started Eli’s Coffee Shop when I was 24. […]
What Exactly Does a Divorce Coach Do? (And Why You Need One)
By Katie Vandenberg, CDC Certified Divorce Coach® So, what exactly DOES a Divorce Coach do?? I get asked this all the time, especially when I meet someone new. It’s usually accompanied by nervous laughter or jokes about spouses, maybe already being in touch with me. I decided to become a Certified Divorce Coach after not […]
ADDICTED TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE
Hello again! I can’t believe it’s been another week already. Spring has been flying by! I’m a member of our local Garden Club and we had our Season Kick Off meeting the other night. When we finished out last season, April felt so far off in the distant future and yet, here we are. My […]
Build Your Relationship Around Your Life, Not Your Life Around Your Relationship
A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Happiness, Identity, and Control Quick Answer: Healthy Interdependence vs. Enmeshment Healthy interdependence means two whole people choosing to share their lives while maintaining individual identities, interests, and emotional autonomy. Enmeshment means losing yourself so completely in a relationship that your happiness, schedule, and sense of self are entirely […]